The law of attraction is a complex issue, and there are many more ways to attract people than just by our looks alone. The great part is, we can all have the ability to attract others when we know what the best ways to attract people are. Society has taught us, especially women, that sex appeal equals attractiveness. This couldn't be further from the truth. Of course sex appeal enters into the equation at some point, but overall, attraction is a chemistry-based science we can all master with the right knowledge. Read on to find my list of the 8 best ways to attract people and let me know what you think!
Such a simple action, yet one of the best ways to attract people is to simply smile! A fake smile is not attractive, so don’t walk around with a fake grin on your face all day, but do find more things to smile about. For instance, noticing small things around you that you appreciate or enjoy, or thinking of positive things in your life can help you smile more and generally appear happier to others. When someone greets you, smile at them and say hello. When you encounter a stranger at the grocery store checkout, your favorite store, through the drive-thru, or passing on the street, smile at them and say hi. The act is not a hard one, but many of us are so focused on ourselves, we forget how we subconsciously treat others through our facial expressions. Smiling more helps you appear more attractive, no matter what you’re wearing, how your hair looks, or if you've got a breakout on your face. That’s a beauty recommendation we can all manage.
2. Walk with Confidence
One of my favorite quotes is by Oscar de la Renta, who said, “Walk like you’ve got three men behind you.” This is a fun little reminder that we ladies need to walk with confidence, like we own the room. This is not meant to imply we need to appear cocky or over the top. It simply means we need to walk with our heads held high, our shoulders back and torso tall, and of course, sway your hips when you walk. Nothing appears more attractive to others than a woman who walks with confidence and grace. Own the room you walk into and enter with a confident, graceful stride. Almost nothing is more attractive to strangers, or makes a greater first impression.
3. Don’t Tell Everyone Your Business
No one likes the person at the office or party who gabs to everyone about their latest sob story. Now, I’m not talking about your closest girlfriends, whom you should be able to talk about these things with. I’m referring to constantly bringing your drama up to everyone you know, or even worse, to strangers. You know the kind I’m talking about, right? Joe Blog at the office who has told everyone how hard he has it, or is constantly whining about his life’s personal issues no matter where he goes. He’s not attractive, and neither are you when you do this nonstop. While we should always be honest, sometimes it is better to listen to others and offer a positive conversation than to bring our negativity into other people’s day.
4. Wear Red or Black
Did you know that most men perceive a woman dressed in red or black as more attractive than those who aren't wearing these colors? Women also respond to these two colors, even in other women! Women look bold, confident and sophisticated in red and black, and while I’m not suggesting you go all out from head to toe in the colors, little accents here and there go a long way. Try a sleek, black blazer which appears conservative and stylish, with a trendy red scarf or lipstick. Or, dress up a red blouse with a sleek black pencil skirt. You get the idea. I don’t wear these two colors very much myself, but I do admit I feel more confident when I wear them as opposed to my usual drab tan and black combo.
5. Be Polite
If you’re rude to others it won’t matter how you walk, what you say, or what color you've got on! You've got to be polite to other people to be seen as attractive, even when it can be hard. Sure, you may not care what the rude waitress thinks of you at the restaurant and you’re going to give her a piece of your mind whether it’s attractive or not, right? I’ve been there, and while I may not care what the waitress thinks of me, I do care how I handle myself in public. Nobody likes to see someone causing an upset in a public place, so don’t be one of those individuals either. Generally, the more you try to be genuinely polite to people, even when it can be challenging, the happier you’ll actually be and the more attractive you’ll appear.
6. Get the Size Right
For the love of fashion and comfort combined, please wear clothes that fit! When clothes hang off of you or are so tight you can barely get them on, it’s time to find something else to wear. Don’t fall for the misconception that other people don’t notice you don’t fit in your clothes because they do. Clothes that fit you flatter you. Remember that. No matter what your size is, embrace it, wear it and flaunt it!
7. Trim and Clean Your Nails
I’m sorry, but dirty hands or jagged nails are just not attractive. I've caught myself getting lax in the nail trim department before and I always remember what a modeling teacher taught me once. She told me that one of the first things people notice about you is your hands. Moisturize them, clean your nails and trim your nails, all the same length. It immediately makes you seem polished and put together to other people. That is always important in being attractive. In the human mind, polished automatically appears as confident, which as you now know, creates attractiveness.
8. Get Fit
This isn't a prescription to weight loss, but it is a great way to be more attractive to people. Others can sense when we take care of ourselves. It’s in our eyes, our skin, our mood and our general persona. Being fit, no matter what your size, is very attractive and it has nothing to do with body image alone. When you’re fit or exercise regularly, your blood flow is better, giving you a better complexion. Your mood is better since exercise relieves stress, and generally, people who exercise tend to carry themselves in a more confident, positive manner. When your heart is healthy, so are you. So take a walk, ride your bike, do some yoga, whatever you need to do. You’ll notice a dramatic difference and so will everyone else!
Being attractive is all about the science behind finding ways to attract people. It really isn’t very hard, and anyone can achieve these small tips. Do you have any tips on ways to attract people?